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So let’s get to our topic for today , “FRIENDSHIP” . First of all let me define what friendship is because a lot of you don’t know the meaning , with the happenings nowadays no you all don’t know what that word means.
Who is a friend ?
A friend is someone you can tell secrets to. Friends especially don’t steal from each other or fight. They always help and are kind to one another. A friend is someone who cares for you , who sticks by your side when you’re lonely, who helps you up when you get hurt , but most importantly friends come in different ways.
Now lemme define modern day friendship because what I see Nao is the last sentence underlined.
This new generation friends are defined as who you gain from, who follows you to have fun, who gat your back on clap-back season, who will fight a mutual friend for you, who will stand and lie with you , who will talk about you, come to your face n smile with you, who can sleep with your boyfriend and say after all you were not talking him serious, who gets jealous of your success, who sees you as a threat, who celebrates with you in the open but curses you in secret.
Now lemme let you know one thing, only your family can keep your secrets, only you can keep your secrets , no one is perfect , even if you commit murder you are not the first, am not saying u should kill o, Edakun ” am saying nothing is new under the sun .
Please be careful about who you tell anything too, now let me tell you if you have 100 friends you will have some that you are more attached too, those ones are your closest friends, now those ones are the ones you will share more secrets with and even gossip with . Now this people have friends also that they are closer too. This thing called friendship is a chain. Your best friend or close friend has another friend or close friend. You are not the only one she or he will be attached too.
What am I trying to say , gossip is a chain of communication , it goes from the Primary source to many secondary sources. So one person picks up a gist from another person, boom couple of people have heard about it but you don’t know. So already your secrets is in the public .
Now some of this people do this things with a clean heart but the person they are delivering too might not have a clean heart. So it goes in a wrong direction.
Same way we have the friends with benefit, this doesn’t only come with you and a guy. Your female friends can be friends with benefit. I guess you will say what’s she saying ? Let me break it down. You all have some friends that call you or message you when they have an important outing , you also have some that will only call you to club, or to follow to the market, or to man’s house, or call you to rant about their relationships, or about how they feel at that particular time. Now that is where you have been categorized as
Same way we have friends that check on us, know when we are down , can read our sign language, can communicate with just a look, can say where you are, what you are doing , and can be there for you no matter what
Same way we have the ones for gossip and update
We have the categories of fighters the ones that fight your battle .
Now settle down check all your friends, categorize them and know how to reduce your circle , trust me you don’t need a lot of friends, you won’t be able to cope , drama, fights . Yes you should fight with your friends to make them know you better or to pass a message that’s important or to make them realize your worth and then you good .
I hear a lot say I prefer to keep male best-friends , yes it’s good Buh wait till your boyfriend won’t take it or your husband is against it or you find yourself getting attached and falling in love or the partner of the best-friend is against it.
In summary you the friend that you are told something and you use it against your friend or you make a mockery out of it, yours will come and by then you will know it pays to keep your mouth shut and mind your business. My fellow Nigerians watch your back, watch who you tell your darkest secrets. No one is loyal anymore. And at times this dark secrets break a lot .
Be mindful of words you say, actions speaks .
Proverbs 27 vs 17 : says As Iron Sharpens Iron, so a Friend Sharpens a Friend.
Proverbs 18 vs 24 : says Friends come and go, but a true Friend sticks by you like family.
Last quote for the day:
REAL FRIENDS DON’T GOSSIP, THEY PRAY.